The best of this week’s blogs by the bloggers who blog them. Highlighting the top 3 posts as chosen by Sugasm participants. Want in Sugasm #174? Submit a link to your best post of the week using this form. Participants, repost the link list within a week and you’re all set.
This Week’s Picks
Dressing Room Voyeur
“I caught his gaze this time, on purpose.”
It’s Always the Quiet Ones…
“So grabbing her hips, I pulled her in for a kiss.”
Behind Closed Doors
“Others had watched, she beat me, brought me to tears, held me and then began to untie me.”
The Mouse Drama
Let the Rain Come
(Sugasm participants should re-post all the links above within a week. The following links may be excluded as long as you include all the above links.)
BDSM & Fetish
Being Bendy, Beaten and Punished
Make Me Want It
Male Chastity Devices
Miss Susan, Nick B and Montreal Fetish Weekend
The One I Miss the Most
Tuesday Night – The First Time
NSFW Pics, Videos & Audio
2 Pretty maids severely spanked
Deep cutting cane stripes
Hal-Nekkid Anniversary pt2
Huge wobbly buttocks
Kelly Brook in Sexy Lingerie
Sunflowers part III
Erotic Writing & Experiences
The Accidental Orgy
Blowjobs and Beautiful People
The Conclusion of the Duchess’s Adventure
Cottage Country part 1
Countdown. Confession #340
Dance the Night Away, Part 2
Darklady’s Detention Hall (an Event Report)
HNT: The Gift
Lessons Learned (1/2)
Red And Blue Make…
Rub Me Up The Right Way
She Deserves Better
The Succubus Wakes
When I purchased this dildo about two years ago, it was intended to use with a strap on. The strap on that we purchased came with its own dildo, but its appearance was very unappealing to me. I wanted something a little more “me” to use in it. This was definitely what I was looking for appearance wise.
Things did not work out as planned with the strap-on. But I believe that had to do with the actual strap-on, not the dildo. After a few failed attempts with the strap-on, I decided that this was better for hands-on action.
It is made out of Sil-a-gel, which is safer and less porous than rubber. I still have to recommend using a condom with it. The upside to this material is that you can use both water- and silicone-based lubes with it. The one downside with the material is that is attracts dust and fuzz like a magnet. I highly recommend you store this baby in a satin bag or something similar to keep it clean between uses. It cleans very easily with some water and a little antibacterial soap.
The “Junior” name may lead you to believe that this dildo is small, it is smaller than some others out there, but not small by any means. It is about an inch and half thick and about 6 inches long. It is a little veiny, a bit unrealistic, but the vein texture provides a nice sensation. The head of the dildo is slightly larger than the shaft, a nice proportion ratio. It is a bit flexible, but still firm enough for easy penetration. I really like the texture of the material, I commonly find some toys to be too hard to my taste. You can get a little rough with this and not easily hurt yourself or your partner.
When I was researching this particular dildo, to see what others had to say about it, I noticed a lot of other women complained about the taste and smell. I have not had any problems with it. It kind of has a new toy smell still, but it has never been overwhelming, or turned me off of the product.
For the price, this is a great deal.
They did a study where they found that most women could reach orgasm if they had more than 23 minutes of foreplay. So really even if you guys knew like nothing about sexuality, if you just took your time to touch her, to connect with her, and to pleasure her, you’d be doing great.
The level and the depth to which you connect with your woman is directly proportional to the level of her orgasm.
This shouldn’t be a surprise for anybody – it’s not like we never heard this from women. But sometimes we need reminders for what’s really most important.
Now in foreplay I usually use kissing as a foundation. Women love kissing because it makes them feel connected to the man, once again. It’s one of their core needs and fantasies.
So as you kiss her, see what kind of touch you can incorporate. You can be touching her cheeks. Women love to have their face held as you’re kissing her. You can be stroking just lightly her scalp while you’re kissing her. You can be playing with her ears while kissing her. You can be circling her lower back while kissing her.
Now all of these are aspects of sensory overload where she is experiencing the kiss and all these other sensations are coming in. You could be lightly brushing over the inside of her thigh while you’re kissing her, and then move down to kiss her neck, moving organically from one area to another.
A woman’s whole body is an erogenous zone. Yes, there are definitely more nerve endings at some areas, but t if you can create a symphony of sensory pleasure for her, she is going to be in heaven because a woman really wants to be touched.
So basically all of the foreplay techniques get incorporated into how you are making love with her. The sexual techniques, once again it’s like yes, each one is an isolated technique, and yet the key to mastery is how do you combine these techniques while paying attention to her responses that brings out her deepest pleasure.
I’m in love again.. 😀
How did I not discover her sooner?
All the curves, the hair color, the sultry eyes – Oh my! 😀
When browsing my first sex shop the bullets really appealed to me, they didn’t seem as scary as some of the other items. The price was perfect, too. It was cheap enough to be a good buy for my first time, but didn’t seem so cheap that it would break the first chance I got to use it. This seemed simple and cute, perfect for a beginner.
When my boyfriend purchased this for me we were both so excited to go home and give it a try. The first thing I noticed was that the tickler part of this bullet felt very awkward to me, a little pokey. I ended up cutting that part down a good bit shorter, so that it wasn’t as uncomfortable, but it was probably just me. Once I cut it down to size though I really enjoyed it. I’m sure most women will find the tickler to be quite nice at the length it was originally, but for me, I just liked it shorter.
I really enjoyed the gradual speed control and the different settings. I found that these settings were pretty dead on! They worked out very nicely.
1. Foreplay – a light vibration, just enough to get you started.
2. Tease – this setting had a gradual speed, then it jumped back down to low, left me wanting more.
3. Pulsation – a mixture of different speeds, a nice pulsing sensation.
4. Vibration – this was just a nice steady vibration
5. Climax– a variant of the Tease setting, but this one goes to a higher, more intense speed, usually bringing you to climax
I had this bullet for about six months or so, then the wiring shorted out or something. I would have to wiggle the wires to get it to turn on, which was a pain in the ass, it left me pretty frustrated. Eventually it stopped working all together.
The easy speed adjustment, and the different settings
I personally didn’t like the long tickler, was a little too long
If this product didn’t short out on me, it would be a Must Have! But having a toy die on you is really annoying. I might purchase another one, the price is reasonable enough. It could have been just a defected one that I had.
I give it a 3 out of 5
Lilly, of DangerousLilly.com, is giving away an Njoy Pure Wand courtesy of EdenFantasys! The Pure Wand is a high-quality stainless steel double-ended dildo for either G-spot stimulation or prostate stimulation. It is 24 ounces of solid medical grade stainless steel, and polished to a mirror shine. Lilly loves her Pure Wand and wants to spread the love to one lucky winner!
To enter the contest just visit her blog to find out the rules and entry methods. You can enter even if you don’t have a blog, it’s easy! The contest deadline is September 16th, 2009, at Midnight Eastern Standard Time.